Anonymous asked: Hey world changer! I was wondering do you think its wrong for me to send anon messages to one of my bestfriends telling her that she is beautiful. I have been worried about her for about a year since she became sad and started cutting. I tell her all the time that she is beautiful in real life but I feel that she doesnt believe it. She has been posting alot about cutting and wanting life to be over and I cant stand to see her in pain. Am i decieving her by doing this? Please pray for her!
Hi! I do not see anything wrong in this, as long as you’re being encouraging and uplifting! Why don’t you try talking to her about it, talk more than just saying she’s beautiful. Maybe tell her why.
Tell her that God loves her and created her exactly as He intended:
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.- Song of Solomon 4:7
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. -Ephesians 2:10
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. -Proverbs 31:30
“The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart” -1 Samuel 16:7
Remind her how much God loves her.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. -John 3:16
So pray to God about her, lift up her to His hands, and then talk to her. Ask Him to give you the right words to say to help her through this hard time. Just be there for her in whatever way she needs, but remind her how much she is love by God. And how He created her EXACTLY how He wanted her.
I will be praying <3
Anonymous asked: First of all, hun your blog is absolutely amazing! You are truly an inspiration! My question is, I recently had a big blow out with my friend because she is an atheist and I referenced God to her. She said some really awful things to me about my faith including that I am "praying to nothing". I am really hurt especially since I wasn't trying to convert her or anything, I didn't even know she was an atheist for goodness sakes! Should I try to patch things up? Have you ever dealt with this before?
Hi there!! Thank you for the kind words. I haven’t had a conversation with an atheist or someone who doesn’t believe the same things I do. I’m so sorry that it turned into a big fight though :/ As a friend, she probably should’ve been more understanding knowing that you two had different beliefs. But this could be a reason why she wasn’t:
Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. -John 3:20
Now I’m not insinuating she does evil by being an atheist, I just heard this in a sermon about nonbelievers that really made me understand why they get so defensive when we bring up God sometimes. You are a light. If you’re following Christ you are a light to this world. We live in a world of darkness, so when you brought up God (even if it was in a nonchalant way) she probably felt like she was being victimized and her sins were being exposed. We’re all sinners, but as Christ followers we know that Jesus died for our sins so we are saved. So when we bring to surface our faith and God, they feel like their wrongdoings are what is being exposed. Yes you should try to patch things up, don’t apologize for bringing up God though, because we shouldn’t be afraid to talk about Him to anyone! (My opinion) But yes definitely make things right. You might be able to be someone who she can turn to. You might be the only ‘Christ’ she ever comes into contact with, that’s why we have to push our own feelings aside, our own anger aside and let God work. Now I’m not saying go up to her and talk about God again, but just say you’d like to move on from the fight and that you will be there for her whenever she needs you. Just have faith that things will work out!!
God bless <3
Anonymous asked: I'm having some friend problems at the moment... : / I've always believed that my friend is a good and true friend but I feel like she's been manipulating me. My family is telling me that our friendship is ruining my personality but I feel as though I have to be there for her because she's going through a bad time of her life at the moment. I'm feeling abit lost and I've distanced myself from her. Can you please pray for me? Also I was wondering if you have any bible quotes about this? Thank you
Hi hun, I’m sorry to hear this :( I just recently heard a sermon about Friendship, and luckily I took notes and posted the sermon! Here’s the link http://agirlchangingtheworld.tumblr.com/post/19343959169/friendship
I definitely recommend you reading it. I don’t think you being friends with someone should hinder how you treat people, so even if you’re just trying to help her make sure she doesn’t affect you negatively! Just pray about it though, so you can know what God wants you to do. I will be praying for you <3 God bless!
Here’s another link of friendship questions I have answered: http://agirlchangingtheworld.tumblr.com/tagged/friendship
Anonymous asked: hi! i love your blog, it's so inspirational! I was just wondering if you knew any bible quotes about trusting God's plan for the future and just what the future holds. I was also wondering if you knew any good bible quotes about family and friends?
Hi there! Thank you :)
Here are a few that sit close to my heart.
Trusting in God’s plan
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. -Jeremiah 29:11
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you -Matthew 6:33
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them -Ephesians 2:10
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,
before you were born I set you apart;
I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” -Jeremiah 1:5
Friends & Family
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone -Romans 12:18
This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you. You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name He may give you. These things I command you, that you love one another. -John 15:12-17
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken. -Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Friends love through all kinds of weather,
and families stick together in all kinds of trouble. -Proverbs 17:17 (MSG)
I hope these helped! God bless!
Anonymous asked: How do I handle the fact that the person I am now closest with and can tell anything to is 8 years older than me. I enjoy discussion with this person and all the advice I've been given, but I do not want to cross a line by any means but sa friend said it will lead to problems. He is simply someone I feel comfortable sharing things with and talking to. I don't have those improper intentions but my friend likes to think so. Thank you, God Bless
Hi there! Well I personally don’t think age matters, especially between friends. I have many older friend whom I talk to daily and they’re more of mentors to me, but that’s what I need from them. If this friend doesn’t want you to cross lines then you should respect their opinions- even if you don’t think you’re in the wrong. They’re just taking precautions in the situation. Maybe tell them that you see them as a mentor, and tell them that you don’t have any inappropriate intentions. If they still don’t think it’s right, then just respect that. If that is the case, God will bring you someone to become close with when it’s the right time. Just trust in that. God bless!
Anonymous asked: I feel as though, I'm losing my friends day by day and secluding myself from everyone I wanna reach out and be friends with more than a couple good solid christian friends. What should I do? How can I be more outgoing and not so shy and timid? Thank you so much, you've answered all of my questions. I'm so thankful for that. I wish I could meet you .. one day in heaven , YES :) Have a good night < love.
Hi hun! If you feel as though your secluding yourself and don’t like it then find ways to reach out. Maybe going to more school/work or church events. Those are the places where you meet new people. A lot of people struggle with being shy and not outgoing all the time. I do when I’m meeting new people or am around a large group. But when I’m with my friends, I’m a complete goofball which is what gives me confidence. So the next time I’m meeting new people, I’m not as shy anymore. It just takes you building your self confidence, and finding people who you can be yourself around. Don’t worry about it though, just be yourself and friends will come flowing your way! You’re sweet :) God bless!!
Anonymous asked: My best friend was just diagnosed with cancer and I have no idea how to react. I'm studying abroad right now too so I can't go see her. I'm absolutely terrified but I don't want to show her how scared I am. Do you have any advice or anything? I literally have no idea what to do…
Oh my. I’m so sorry, dear. I can’t imagine. I don’t have the right answers, because fortunately I’ve never known someone who has gone through that. But I think the best thing you can do is to remind her that there’s hope. Help her keep faith in this situation. You never know what might come out of it. I know you’re scared, and let her know you’re worried, but don’t let her know you’re terrified. Because she’s probably terrified, and she doesn’t want to know everyone else around her is falling apart too. So remind her that God is with her through everything. Trust in Him. Have hope. He has a plan. Whatever that may be. I wish I could tell you exactly what to do, but I honestly don’t know. Pray about it. A lot. I’m praying. Tell her you’re praying. Just help keep her strong. She is going to need a lot of strength. Honestly, just be there for her.
Everyone reading this, please pray for this girl who was just diagnosed with cancer, and her family and friends <3
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone -Romans 12:18
-A true friend builds you up and encourages you
Anxiety weighs down the heart,
but a kind word cheers it up -Proverbs 12:25
Worry weighs a person down, encouragement cheers a person up.
A scoundrel plots evil,
and on their lips it is like a scorching fire.
A perverse person stirs up conflict,
and a gossip separates close friends -Proverbs 16:27-28
Gossip separates the best of friends.
Are you friends tearing you down with what they say to you, about you?
You need to refuse to listen to gossip.
Become about building others up instead about tearing them down.
-True friends influence us in good ways
Walk with the wise and become wise,
for a companion of fools suffers harm -Proverbs 13:20
-True friends don’t take advantage of you
The poor are despised even by their neighbors,
while the rich have many “friends.” -Proverbs 14:20
A true friend is a friend through anything, they like you for you…not what you can do for them.
Wealth makes many “friends”;
poverty drives them all away -Proverbs 19:4
-True friends forgive one another
Love prospers when a fault is forgiven,
but dwelling on it separates close friends -Proverbs 17:9
-True friends stick by you no matter what
There are “friends” who destroy each other,
but a real friend sticks closer than a brother -Proverbs 18:24
A friend is always loyal,
and a brother is born to help in time of need -Proverbs 17:17
Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ -Galatians 6:2
Friendships are necessary and beneficial, and the best types of friendships are those centered around God, it’s the most important thing in your life.
Your friendship/relationship is going to be stronger than ever and will not be easily broken when tough times come.
What kind of friend are you?
A friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity (Proverbs 17:17)
How can I know who my friends are?
One way is a test of loyalty. A genuine friend loves us through the best and worst of times. In fact, a friend’s true colors are revealed when we go through unusually difficult or painful circumstances.
According to Proverbs it’s preferable to have one or two close, intimate companions than a host of superficial acquaintances. The person who maintains only surface relationships with a wide number of people may eventually face ruin for lack of good advice when it is truly needed -> A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24)
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.” (NIV)
“Here’s another old saying that deserves a second look: ‘Eye for eye, tooth for tooth.’ Is that going to get us anywhere? Here’s what I propose: ‘Don’t hit back at all.’ If someone strikes you, stand there and take it. If someone drags you into court and sues for the shirt off your back, giftwrap your best coat and make a present of it. And if someone takes unfair advantage of you, use the occasion to practice the servant life. No more tit-for-tat stuff. Live generously.” (MSG)